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Advice & Wisdom Archives

Here are the past Advice & Wisdom free webinars.

Advice & Wisdom February 16, 2015

Doug talks about his personal journey from lawyer to peacemaker and about his Prison of Peace project.

Participants ask the following questions:

How does someone who has never done peace work before start to become a beacon of peace?

I have been asked to teach an hour class at a trade convention.  I know something about the topic but I am not a big talker and have no idea how to do this.  Also, speaking in front of people makes me very nervous.  Any advice?

Do you know if there is anyone doing the peace work with the gangs in Fresno?

Do you find that you have to teach vulnerability in the prison program or does it come naturally from people once they feel they are deeply heard and/or are in a safe place?  (since you talked about your own discovery about power coming from vulnerability- can you talk more about how that has translated into your work?)

Advice & Wisdom March 2, 2015

Doug talks about family relationships.

Participants ask the following questions:

I have a mother-in-law that is hyper-critical of me. How do I best manage her?

I have a dispute with my brother over how to care for my elderly mother. I am the caregiver. He lives hours away. How to I manage this?

Advice & Wisdom April 13, 2015

Advice & Wisdom May 4, 2015

Advice & Wisdom June 15, 2015

Doug talks money, debt, and interest.

Participants ask the following questions:

I have a 2009 Nissan. I am paying 17% interest and $350 per month. I owe about $5,000 on it. What should I do?

We live on a fixed income and spent most of our nest egg fixing up our home. Our summer utility bill is very high. We are considering solar to reduce our bill. We don’t understand the different sales pitches we are getting. Can you shed some light on leasing versus purchasing a solar system?

 

 

 

 

 

 

On this edition of Advice & Wisdom,  Doug answers your questions about emotions. How do you stay calm and cool when others are upset? What is emotional intelligence and how do you master it? How can you create safe emotional space for your family and loved ones?

 

 

 

 

 

 

On this edition of Advice & Wisdom,  Doug explains the principles of negotiation in relationships. He defines negotiation and explains why negotiation in relationships is more complex than business or legal negotiation. Doug talks about some psychological principles of negotiation, including the reciprocity norm, the nature of trust, and power in negotiation. Doug defines fairness in terms of distributive justice and describes it as a three-leggged stool of equity, equality, and need.

Doug describes and explains the two forms of negotiation, distributive and integrative. He describes five negotiation styles: competitive, compromising, appeasing, avoiding, and collaborating. He explains the limits of collaboration and what must be present for it to occur.

Finally, Doug reveals four principles of negotiation that will make relationship negotiation constructive, positive, and powerful.